Saving Your Marriage--3 Steps You Must Take
Save Your Marriage and Honor Your Wedding Vows

                                  Saving Your Marriage--3 Steps You Must Take

If you’re reading this, your marriage is probably in trouble. Either you or your spouse is thinking about calling it quits and getting a divorce. Divorce is not always the answer nor is it always the best solution for your problems. Saving your marriage should be your top priority. 

Saving your marriage will necessitate you learning how to make a marriage work. And it will require WORK!

As someone once said, “nothing worthwhile comes easy”. This is especially true for marriages.

This doesn’t mean you need to have a perfect marriage. What is a perfect marriage anyway? Does anyone know?  We are all imperfect, so how can you expect your marriage to be perfect?  You can’t.

But you can have an excellent marriage.  A marriage based upon mutual love and trust, where both you and your spouse can grow as individuals and as a couple.

So if saving your marriage is important to you, and you want an excellent marriage, then follow these 3 steps:

Step #1.  Like I said earlier, realize that you are not perfect, your spouse is not perfect, therefore your marriage will not be perfect either. But that doesn’t mean that it can't work and that you can't be blissfully happy and in love! You can have a very successful marriage!

When two people live together, there will always be disagreements. Whether it’s a husband and wife, two friends, or two siblings, there will always be differences of opinion. Believe this. It’s a fact!

But the real problem is not the relationship; the real problem is that most people haven’t learned how to disagree in a polite and constructive manner. We let our egos take over. We want to be right all the time! You are never right all the time! No one is.

To make your marriage work you need to learn how to compromise, and literally give in to your partner when the situation calls for it. If you cannot do this, then I would suggest you get some professional help. A good marriage counselor, pastor, priest, or rabbi can be of tremendous benefit.  Intransigence has no place in a marriage.

Marriage is a union between a man and a woman. It is an equal, yes an equal partnership! As a wife, you are not your husband’s boss, and as a husband, you are not your wife’s boss. You are equals in your marriage. And even though difficult or major decisions are often left to either one spouse or the other, both of you should be able to voice your opinion without being ridiculed or scorned.

Step #2.  Maintain an open respectful dialogue between you and your spouse. My wife and I often disagree, but we allow the other person to speak their mind without retribution--no screaming, no yelling, no name-calling, no bringing up past mistakes. We simply talk about the issue at hand. And we ask for help or seek more information if we reach an impasse.

If I make a mistake, my wife calmly informs me of it. If my wife makes a mistake, I politely inform her. And that’s it. We don’t drag it through the mud and argue over it for hours or days. We let it go. We’re humans. We’re going to make mistakes. Dinner might not be on time or be quite to your liking, so forget about it.  You didn’t repair the door properly or get the best deal on that new TV, but is it really that important?   So if a mistake happens, let it go. and don’t bring it up again.  Saving your marriage is what's important.  Doing things perfectly is not.

One of the wisest philosophies for maintaining a happy relationship comes from the Bible. The Bible says, “Never let the sun go down on your anger”.  In other words, never ever go to bed angry! NEVER! The anger will fester and grow and turn into a monster. Always, always, always resolve your differences before you go to bed. You’ll sleep much better also. And the make-up sex will be fantastic because it will be so emotionally charged!

Step #3. The Bible also says, "forgive and forget". This is always the best policy in any type of relationship or situation. Don’t exact revenge or make judgments on your spouse, but forgive instead.  Remember your goal is saving your marriage.

When you got married, you vowed to love and cherish each other in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad times. Honor your wedding vows. Honor and cherish your wife. Admire and cherish your husband. Honor your wedding vows and keep the commitment you made to each other.

Is your marriage going to be ideal, probably not? Someone once told me that a marriage is like a very expensive and delicate piece of machinery. Just because it malfunctions once in a while is no reason to throw it out. You simply get it repaired and continue.  So if saving your marriage is important to you, get it repaired.

If you’re having difficulties in your marriage and you cannot overcome them by yourself, don't even think about getting a divorce, but rather seek some help. After all, years ago you loved your spouse enough to marry them. And even though your relationship has grown and changed over the years, shouldn’t you at least show them the same love and respect now? You’re worth it and so is your spouse!  Saving your marriage should be your top priority in your life now.

And always remember that marriage is for better, for worse, and for keeps! So follow these 3 steps to saving your marriage.  Honor your wedding vows. You'll be glad you did!

For more information go to saving your marriage.

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